On being single (by choice) for a year.

[f4f3]

OK, that's enough of that.

Form an orderly line on the right...

Or, to be a bit more prolix...

I split up with Grace a year ago tonight. Being single has been good for me. It stopped me getting into situations that were driven by need, or the last thing, or habit or whatever.

I've realised, though, that I do like being in a relationship. I don't NEED to be, but I'd like to be.

So those things that I've been interested in, but laid aside? Not so much with the laying aside now.

Part of that is opening myself up again, which is interesting. Part of that means giving up on some things, which is a pain in the butt. There are things I'd really like to do which I won't, because they'd be laying me open to hurt, or to drama, or to hanging on to things that just ain't there anymore.

So apologies, all round. I'm giving up what seems to me to be a lot. And I'm hoping that what comes along will balance that.

Let's see.

And I still think the short version is better.

Comments

[slobberpuppy.livejournal.com]

It's a good place to be, that realization.

Enjoy it.

[andrewducker]

I did much the same, about 8 years ago. I spent a deliberate year not in a relationship, until I actually started to miss it. It was very good for me.

Good luck with making it work!